Michelle Norris – Regain your Sexual Desire, Pleasure and Performance
Michelle Norris - Regain your Sexual Desire, Pleasure and Performance
Michelle Norris is a motivational speaker, the CEO and co-founder of Paleo f(x)™: the largest Paleo health and wellness event in the world, and the Presidential Director and Founding Partner or IDLife, a health and wellness company offering customized nutritional supplementation plans.
Norris is an expert in distilling the information she receives from multiple experts to get to the heart of issues. She believes that many problems can be solved through holistic pathways without causing further damage to the body.
Norris suffered severe mold exposure in 2015 that activated a dormant Epstein Barr virus in her body and threw her hormones into a tailspin. Throughout that experience, Norris lived with emotional and physical pain, extreme weight gain, and a loss of sexual desire, performance and pleasure. With determination and hard work, Norris found the solutions that worked for her and was able to normalize her hormonal balance.
Norris is passionate about helping others understand how to educate themselves about their own health. She believes that people have a responsibility to seek out the information they need and become their own best health advocates.
After climbing off the corporate ladder, Norris became a passionate voice for changing a broken healthcare system and a top supporter of the Paleo movement.
Today, she is bringing her expertise on how to stay positive and take control of your sexuality while managing chronic pain to the High-Tech Wellness podcast.
3:58 Appreciating Your Body
9:55 The Role of Sexuality
17:05 Releasing Trauma
20:02 Intimacy without Intercourse
31:07 Overcoming Sexual Abuse
Some of the insights Norris will offer are:
Appreciating Your Body
When pain is present, you can feel like your body has turned on you. But the natural responses that lead to pain and other problems, such as lack of sexual desire, are your body’s way of protecting itself.
“We sometimes think our bodies are against us when in reality, it is doing exactly what it was meant to do. It’s doing exactly when it needs to do to make sure that you survive.”
Changing your thinking about the body you live in can be one of the most powerful tools at your disposal. Without these natural processes, death would be far more common. Instead of being angry, Norris says, it’s beneficial to find gratitude for the important work your body is doing.
“You won’t be able to escape it. This is one of the reasons I believe it’s important to understand the risk of this exposure and to take steps to protect your biology, so you don’t get damaged from excessive exposures.”
Dr. Mercola embraces technology while also understanding the risks.
“That’s one of my first recommendations…taking a moment to be very grateful for the fact that you have this body that is doing everything that it can to make sure you stay alive.”
The Role of Sexuality
Sexuality is one of the cornerstones of human connection and relationships. Research has shown the importance of touch and the chemical reactions that happen in the body in response to this touch.
“You’re made for touch…and so sexuality is just a flowing factor to all of that.”
The sex hormones released into your body play an important role in good mental, emotional, and physical health, Norris says. They drive everything in the body, and the impact these hormones can have on pain is critical. In fact, the endorphins and hormones released make sexual activity one of the best ways to get rid of a headache, despite the old joke of using a headache to avoid sex. Norris’ personal experience with migraines helped her realize the impact of sex on this physical pain.
“There is not a single pill on the market that can do for a headache what sex can do for a headache.”
Sometimes, people are dealing with such intense pain that sexual activity is out of the question. In these cases, Norris says, any kind of touch is still important to prompt the release of hormones that can positively impact pain.
In the animal kingdom, the release of trauma is instinctual. Humans have been trained not to run on instinct any longer, and in the process, have lost the essential ability to release trauma.
“The problem is we store it, we keep it in, and ultimately down the road it’s going to lead to disease.”
Children are resilient and have built-in mechanisms, like crying, to help them release trauma. In our modern world, however, they’re being taught to stop crying and be strong and stoic. Finding ways to reverse this as adults is essential in dealing with pain.
Intimacy Without Intercourse
Sexuality is a spectrum and achieving intimacy doesn’t have to mean having sexual intercourse. The emotional aspects of sexuality have nothing to do with genitals, and orgasms are possible even without physical contact.
“Our brains are probably the most powerful sexual organ that we have.”
Loneliness, shame and guilt have a profound impact on the way we feel about ourselves, which then impacts our ability to find intimacy. Discovering ways to love yourself must come from within.
“You have to love yourself first, and you have to love yourself most so that you can actually give love, receive love, and connect to other people.”
Overcoming Sexual Abuse
Emotional trauma can be a huge barrier to sexual desire and performance. Norris talks about the high percentage of women who have experienced sexual abuse and shares her own personal story of overcoming abuse.
“I think what we need to do is examine our abuse and know that, for one, we were not responsible. We were not responsible. It doesn’t matter what they said to us.”
Refusing to allow sexual abuse to define your life is essential. Learning the difference between being victimized and becoming a victim is crucial. Changing your mindset on whether you deserve love can make all the difference.
“You are lovable, and you are desirable, and you are respected because of who you are, not because of what happened.”
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